Parenting
Pre-schoolers: A Positive Practical Parenting Seminar
Questions from Dapto,
NSW, Mums
Is it bad to give
them choice too often?
When our children are aged 2 – 5 years, it is important to
make most of the choices in the day for them. We are older, and wiser, and it
is kind to gently lead them. Toddlers will not choose vegetables over sweets
for dinner, a nap over play time or a bath over a video. As parents we need to
make these decisions for them. As they get older, we can gradually give them
more choice.
How do I prevent
back-chatting?
It is your calm consistency that will reap change. In a time
of non-conflict, clearly explain how you wish them to respond to your
instructions. Clearly state the consequence if they do not respond in that way.
(the consequence will depend on their age and your personal preference). Then
each and every time they choose to back-chat, calmly and consistently enforce the
consequence.
How do I encourage an
early response to a task (e.g. packing up toys) I have given?
It is your calm consistency that will reap change. In a time
of non-conflict, practice packing up the toys at the speed of Superman,
Spiderman (or whatever super hero they like). Then practice packing up the toys
at the pace of a snail or turtle (or whatever slow animal they like). Next time
you ask them to pack up let them know if this is a turtle-speed pack-up of a
superman-speed pack-up.
