How can I help my little one handle times of grief?
Life is hard.
Life is messy.
Life is sad.
Our precious little ones cry a lot.
Sometimes when they are hungry.
Sometimes when they are tired.
Sometimes when they are frustrated.
As kind parents we respond in kind.
We feed them nutritious food at regular times.
We ensure they are not over-busy and have adequate naps and night time sleep.
We teach them skills that will enable them to progress developmentally and help minimise their frustration levels.
So what should we do when they are sad?
Often we will be sad with them.
If a family pet dies, they should know it is okay to miss the pet.
It is okay to say goodbye in a tangible way.
It is okay to talk about the pet.
In time, it is okay to buy a new one to care for and love.
If a family member dies, they should know it is okay to cry and feel sad about that.
It is okay to need lots of hugs and snuggle time.
It is okay to look through photos and remember the happy times.
Hopefully they can have the comfort too, of knowing they will see that loved one in heaven one day.
Moving house.
Having a family member leave the house.
Prolonged illness.
An injury to a family member.
Loss of a job.
A relationship conflict.
The end of a dream.
All of these things can cause sadness.
We need to help our little ones walk through these situations, rather than trying to shield them from reality.
Life is hard.
Life is messy.
Life is sad.
Yet, walking through hard times together can strengthen relationships and build your child's faith.
