Perfect Perfectionism???

Perfectionism has a beautiful place in this world - in the arts, sports, music, crafts, dance.

However it is extremely damaging in relationships.

Expecting perfection in ourselves as parents, or in our children,
or in any relationship is unrealistic and harmful.

Real life and real people are filled with faults. Acknowledging, accepting, forgiving and even (sometimes!) enjoying these moments is crucial for today, and for modelling to our children how to cope with the real world of study, work and relationships in adulthood.

Enjoy the beauty of ballet, that unbelievable soccer goal or magnificent musical piece,
and the imperfection of people.

Overall Objective

My Emily has just had her first book completed.

It is a great achievement for a 13 year old. Sure I'm proud of her.

However if she wrote 100 books in her lifetime,
yet did not love and care for her God and for others,
I would feel quite sad.

Sure I want my children to do their best at school, sports,
music, drama, public speaking and so on.

Mostly, my overall objective is for their character,
their heart, to be the best it can be.